Long Days, Big Feelings: Supporting your Child Through the Summer Holidays

Transitions are part of everyday life that include changes to a routine or environment that requires someone to adapt. For some children, these changes can feel more overwhelming, as many children have a greater need for structure, consistency, and predictability. The long Summer holidays often disrupt existing routines, and it is completely normal for your child to be affected by these changes. You may notice some differences in your child’s behaviour and emotions, which may bring challenges to you as a parent during this time. 

School Holidays 

School holidays can be a time many families look forward to, as a break from end of year assessments or tiring activities such as school plays, or sports days. For some children, school events and special treats can also be overwhelming and worrying. The Summer holidays can therefore provide relief from the often overstimulating school environment. 

However, other children thrive within the structure of the school environment, where predictable routines, known travel routes and familiar people provide them comfort and certainty. The sudden loss of routine and increased sensory or social demand associated with the holidays, can lead to your child becoming dysregulated, which might increase your parental worry. 

Environments such as summer clubs or camps may create a slightly more expected routine, but can still be an adjustment for your child and are often a potentially unfamiliar environment, and a new set of social and sensory demands.

Tips:

  • Use a weekly visual calendar to create structure. 
  • Talk through plans in advance to give your child a sense of control. 
  • If there are new plans or any changes to the schedule, informing your child of these as soon as possible, with details of what to expect may help to reduce anxiety.
  • Introduce new environments, such as summer clubs, gradually. 
  • Bring comfort items to uncomfortable places, for example your child’s favourite toy to the summer club, to help them feel more secure in the new environment. 

Day-to-day transitions

Daily transitions are small routine shifts that are frequent throughout the day and can feel difficult for neurodivergent children due to changes in focus, expectations, or environment. 

Task transitions

Some children struggle with shifting between everyday tasks such as switching off their device to come to the dinner table. During Summer holidays, this may be more prevalent because of the lack of a structured and familiar routine. You may have noticed your child having more difficulties shifting attention between tasks, especially if they are transitioning from a more preferred to less preferred task, or from a familiar activity to the unfamiliar. 

Tips: 

  • Use a timer or visual countdown to signal when the activity will end. This makes the ending of the task clear and predictable, facilitating more gradual task shifting. 
  • Turn less preferred or unfamiliar tasks into a game to make them more appealing. This could be setting a timer or racing against the clock. 
  • Involving your child in the process, whether this is deciding the order of the tasks (encouraging them to begin with the least preferred or unfamiliar tasks) or coming up with the rules for the ‘game’ 

Getting ready for the day 

It’s not unusual for children to experience challenges with skills such as planning and organisation, as the area of their brain responsible for these skills is still developing. This can mean they can get overwhelmed by seemingly simple tasks such as getting ready for the day. Additionally, your child may struggle to process verbal instructions, particularly if they involve multiple steps. Starting the day can also involve a lot of sensory challenges such as waking up to a noisy alarm, getting out of the warm bed or having to change into new clothes.  These transitions can include multiple stimuli including the bright lights from bathrooms, the sound and pressure of the water, the feeling of different textures, and these can all be very overwhelming, especially for those with sensory differences. 

Tips: 

  • Break the morning up into stages. Even small tasks, such as brushing your teeth, contain multiple steps that may need to be further broken down. 
  • Using visual checklists.
  • Modifying the environment to your child’s needs, such as dimming lighting and offering a more comfortable water temperature. 
  • Let your child choose clothes or set preferences where possible.

Holding Space for the Summer

The summer holidays can bring a mix of freedom, fun, and emotional challenges for both children and parents. Long days without familiar routines can feel overwhelming, but small, thoughtful adjustments can go a long way in helping your child feel grounded and safe. There’s no need for perfection; just your steady presence, a bit of planning, and plenty of compassion.

Whether your child is thriving with the freedom of the Summer holidays or is looking forward to the structure of September, our targeted programmes offer a parent-led approach to help you support your child’s emotional regulation and self esteem